Criticism, derogatory, disparaging, belittling words, put-downs, labeling/naming; words affect what we do and mold the way we think about people and the world around us. TRUE or False, but especially when they are lies, they can seriously damage a person’s reputation, confidence and self-esteem. These words: Evil Speech and Verbal Abuse must be eliminated, if we are to save our world. These guidelines can help.
1. Be aware! If during a conversation, someone’s skin becomes flushed or pale, you may have hurt them.
2. Speak positively. Don’t assume you know the reason why someone said what they did. All you really know is that they did or said something. You don’t know why until you ask. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt.
3. Jokes are funny, except for the person who is the butt of it or has had the same experience.
4. Your words have the power to hurt 3 people: you, the person you are talking to and the person you’re talking about. Speaking badly about someone, even if you include yourself, still hurts.
5. Evil Speech includes your tone of voice, your facial expressions, and your body language, as well as the words, you speak, write, tweet, sign, etc.
6. Speaking badly about a group or a community hurts many people.
7. Don’t repeat Evil Speech to ANYONE.
8. Don’t listen to Evil Speech. Even if it is public knowledge, it is still wrong.
9. Telling someone what you’ve been told about them may simply make things worse, and put you in the middle where you become the bad guy.
10. Evil Speech may be necessary to warn someone that they are about to make a BIG mistake, to save them from a bad relationship, a disastrous business deal. You may also use it to protect someone who is being hurt by the things that are being said to or about them.