Founder's Spotlight

Monday, March 26, 2017

My plan has changed again, thanks to the Summit County Jury Commissioner. I'm going to look for Group 7 and spend the week waiting to be called, unless, of course, I can convince them that a former Ohio Parole Officer is a lousy bet for objectivity.

Wish me Luck!

I wonder how many times I'm going to hear violent communication.

In the meantime you might want to watch Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD's U-Tube videos.

His book "Nonviolent Communication, A Language of Life" is the source of sweet words and the antidote for Evil Speech. We are exploring ways to integrate Nonviolent Communication into our offerings, but I want to share the CENTER FOR NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION's (NVC) definitions.

What is Violent Communication?

If “violent” means acting in ways that result in hurt or harm, then much of how we communicate—judging others, bullying, having racial bias, blaming, finger pointing, discriminating, speaking without listening, criticizing others or ourselves, name-calling, reacting when angry, using political rhetoric, being defensive or judging who’s “good/bad” or what’s “right/wrong” with people—could indeed be called “violent communication.”

What is Nonviolent Communication?

Nonviolent Communication is the integration of 4 things:

  • Consciousness:a set of principles that support living a life of empathy, care, courage, and authenticity
  • Language:understanding how words contribute to connection or distance
  • Communication:knowing how to ask for what we want, how to hear others even in disagreement, and how to move toward solutions that work for all
  • Means of influence:sharing “power with others” rather than using “power over others”

NVC serves our desire to do three things:

  1. Increase our ability to live with choice, meaning, and connection
  2. Connect empathically with self and others to have more satisfying relationships
  3. Sharing of resources so everyone is able to benefit



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