Now, the General Election campaigning; the real battle can begin. We're still not sure who is the best for our divided country, but we are willing to bet that the fighting and Evil Speech is going to escalate.
The guidelines below haven't changed, but the need for them is going up. If you're not sure why we need to speak to each other more nicely, our 10 Steps's introductory paragraph should help you understand. It describes the kind of words that you will hear and which we consider Evil Speech. The additional synonyms here are to make sure that you, not only understand the words in our mission statement, but can start to appreciate the impact they have as your headache gets worse and worse and our country becomes angrier, more divided and violent.
1. Derogatory; rundown, ridicule, mock, boo, taunts, make fun of, etc.
2. Disparaging; insult, rundown, belittle, poke fun at, etc.
3. Belittling; to cause to seen less than another, to speak of as contentedly small or unimportant.
4. Manipulate; make up, maneuver, trump up, exploit, pull strings, orchestrate, worm.
Verbal Abuse includes yelling, nagging, putting people down in general, name-calling, threatening physical harm, lying, ridiculing, and ignoring. This comes from the website the Battered Women's Shelter Of Summit and Medina Counties.
We can all use The 10 Steps below to start improving our speech. But this is only a starting point, it is more important to understand the damage that these words can do and to empathize with the the victims of Evil Speech.
1. Be aware! If, during a conversation, someone’s skin becomes flushed or pale, you may have hurt them.
2. Speak positively. Don’t assume you know the reason why someone said what they did. All you really know is that they did or said something. You don’t know why until you ask. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt.
3. Jokes are funny, except for the person who is the butt of it or has had the same experience.
4. Your words have the power to hurt 3 people: you, the person you are talking to and the person you’re talking about. Speaking badly about someone, even if you include yourself, still hurts.
5. Evil Speech includes your tone of voice, your facial expressions, and your body language, as well as the words, you speak, write, tweet, sign, etc.
6. Speaking badly about a group or a community hurts many people.
7. Don’t repeat Evil Speech to ANYONE.
8. Don’t listen to Evil Speech. Even if it is public knowledge, it is still wrong.
9. Telling someone what you’ve been told about them may simply make things worse, and put you in the middle where you become the bad guy.
10. SOMETIMES, Evil Speech is necessary. For example, using it to warn someone that they are about to make a BIG mistake, in an effort to save them from a bad relationship or a disastrous business deal. You may also use it to protect someone who is being hurt by the things that are being said to or about them.